After you ejaculate, it takes some time for your body to get an erection again. The time between your ejaculation and the onset of your next erection is called refractory period.
This is one of the cases where men have truly been discrimated by mother nature, because women do not have a refractory period. Well, they do have another kind of period though, so maybe we shouldn’t really complain about the cards we’ve been played 😉
Average refractory period?
There really is no average in this case. In general it’s shorter for young men than it is for old men. Some men can regain an erection even fast just a couple of seconds, while other men need hours. These are the two extremes of the spectrum.
Even for the same man it can differ each time. So one time you have sex and might be ready to go again after just three minutes, and another time it might take your “little friend” 40 minutes to stand up again.
The vast majority of men need to give their penis a break time of around 15-50 minutes before their penis will feel excitable again. The reason is simply that the excitable membrane in your penis needs a “reset” before it’s ready to react to stimulation again after you’ve ejaculated already.
What you eat actually affects your libido. Eating lots of fresh fruits can help you not just to shorten your refrac period, but also to have stronger, harder and bigger erections. I found that certain supplements (like astaxanthin and yohimbe) really can have substantial effects.
The theory is that these supplements tend to influence your hormone levels in a way that you’ll be able to perform better sexually.
Physical exercise can actually help you to get an erection after having an orgasm. However, you need several months of regular exercise to notice an improvement, so I’m not sure if this is the kind of advice you’ve been looking for. Just saying that if you’re not doing regular exercise, it’s one of the best things you can do to improve the quality of your health and wellbeing, and heck, even your mental health.
Now a lot of men, when they try to regain their erection after an orgasm and it doesn’t work, they get really frustrated and upset and even angry, and guess what: that’s not helping.
In fact, men get an erection most easily when they are very relaxed mentally. I’m sure you’ve had that experience where you where in a kind of half-dreaming state of consciousness, kind of like a daydream, and you got a hard-on. Or the morning glory when you wake up in the morning. Relaxation really helps to regain an erection after orgasm.
Don’t try to force yourself to regain an erection. If it’s not working, just give it a bit more time and keep following the advice I laid out here on a regular basis to train yourself. Slow but steady improvement will work for you too.
Being able to perform awesome in bed is especially important when you’re having sex with a woman who has trouble having orgasms…